Marriage Counseling

Ahhh....You know your marriage is fucked when________. You fill in the blanks. I would have said Marriage counseling a couple of years ago, but last week I attended my first session. So much for that die hard time tested marriage that I am involved in. Here's the beat: Marriage is tough and I will be the first to admit that. Everyone has tough times when they live with someone, and having a spouse is no different. Sometimes, you have to compromise on things that you really want. I feel that I have been compromising so much that I am not actually getting anything near what I want.
Now for the truth...UGGHHH! My wife and I have worked hard at our relationship. I seem to take quite a bit while she only gets a little. I take and take, while she gives and gives. This type of relationship can only be utilized in such things as a contract marriage. I mean, c'mon; I have been married 4 1/2 years and life has been good. Without a spouse, most of the things desired in life are untouchable. If you want that big house, nice boat, cool ride or even a full cart of groceries you need someone to help you foot the bill. Now let me set that record straight before you begin to spin it. A spouse is not a financial perk of being married. Marriage is something that you create with someone who you love and care about. Everything else falls into place as time goes by. You have kids together and grow old together. I can think of numerous relationships that have failed, but I can also think of many people who have stuck it out for 50+ years. Talk about commitment.
Before I close anything out on this blog, I want everyone to realize something: no partner in a marriage can work harder than the other and expect to have a good relationship. It just doesn't work that way. If you want a solid long lasting partership, everyone must put their share of work into the plan. You would not want to work more hours and get paid less, so I highly doubt that your spouse would feel the same.